Emotional Intelligence in 22 Proverbs

Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer coined the term emotional intelligence in 1990. But principles underlying the concept have a much longer pedigree.

1.

“Do not contend with a man for no reason, when he has done you no harm.”

(Proverbs 3:30)

2.

“Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.”

(Proverbs 10:12)

3.

“When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.”

(Proverbs 10:19)

4.

“Whoever belittles his neighbor lacks sense, but a man of understanding remains silent.”

(Proverbs 11:12)

5.

“A man who is kind benefits himself, but a cruel man hurts himself.”

(Proverbs 11:17)

6.

“There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”

(Proverbs 12:18)

7.

“Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.”

(Proverbs 12:25)

8.

“Leave the presence of a fool, for there you do not meet words of knowledge.”

(Proverbs 14:7)

9.

“Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly.”

(Proverbs 14:29)

10.

“A tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes the bones rot.”

(Proverbs 14:30)

11.

“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

(Proverbs 15:1)

12.

“The heart of him who has understanding seeks knowledge, but the mouths of fools feed on folly.”

(Proverbs 15:14)

13.

“The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things.”

(Proverbs 15:28)

14.

“The light of the eyes rejoices the heart, and good news refreshes the bones.” 

(Proverbs 15:30)

15.

“Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.”

(Proverbs 16:24)

16.

“Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends.”

(Proverbs 17:9)

17.

“The beginning of strife is like letting out water, so quit before the quarrel breaks out.”

(Proverbs 17:14)

18.

“Whoever restrains his words has knowledge, and he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding.”

(Proverbs 17:27)

19.

“Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.”

(Proverbs 17:28)

20.

“It is an honor for a man to keep aloof from strife, but every fool will be quarreling.”

(Proverbs 20:3)

21.

“‘Scoffer’ is the name of the arrogant, haughty man who acts with arrogant pride.”

(Proverbs 21:24)

22.

“A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.”

(Proverbs 29:11)